Full Moon 12/2

This is a cross post from my Patreon account

The full moon was this weekend and despite the teething madness my child is going through, I was able to go and have 45 mins to do my ritual. It has been several months since I have had the time and energy to go through a full ritual.

I am still working on tweaking my standard ritual format. As I did my working I made some mental notes of things I wanted to change slightly. As much as I love the idea of some of the things I wrote, I feel like they don’t fit a solitary ritual. I used to always do ritual in large groups so that is what I am used to working with. Being solitary, I still want my structure and ritual format, but I don’t think I need to have some of the complex parts. Growth is part of the path. Sometimes we have to let go of something or change it up. I will keep trying different things until it clicks.

The parts I have memorized are comfortable. They allow me to slip into my ritual state, breathe deeply, and connect. I am slowly learning the new parts and seeing how they feel. Once the circle was up I started with the LBRP. This centered me so I could move onto the rest of my work. You can find my thoughts on the LBRP in another post.

I have had a witches jar sitting on my altar since Samhain. I worked on charging it over the course of a week around Samhain, and then left it on my altar to soak up energy. I lit the tiny bit of candle left on it and let it burn out. Once that was done I declared the bottle ready for action and placed it in the spot that will be its home.

My last bit of work for the night was divination. I pulled some cards to read and then brought out my obsidian mirror. I was lucky enough to be gifted this beautiful piece a few months ago. Photos don’t do it justice, the silver mirror back twinkles in the candle light and the obsidian shines. Scrying is not one of my strengths, but I wanted to give it a try. My problems with scrying are around how I receive messages; they don’t tend to be visual for me. I hope that the tool will let me focus and then maybe I will connect in my own way.

I got comfortable and let my eyes go out of focus. There was the hint of something there, but I didn’t receive anything. I will keep working at it and see how it goes.  If you are interested, you can get your own mirror here.

I left my ritual feeling more grounded. I’ve felt a little flustered lately. The holidays mean I am a busy bee, I hand make most my gifts, I do a good chunk of the household stuff, and then we have the very needy teething baby. My brain has felt very scattered. Having a bit of time to focus and ground was excellent.

I hope you all had a lovely full moon! Happy December!

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Mabon ritual

Mabon is on Friday so I thought I would share a simple ritual. Mabon is a time of gratitude and thanks for me, so this ritual is to express that gratitude as you prepare for the fall and winter. Feel  free to add to this ritual, change it up, or strip it down. I have tried to leave it super simple so you can customize it as you wish.

Mabon

Items needed: Candle, candle holder, lighter, incense or rattle, large bowl, paper cut in strips, pen, a small box or pouch, chalice/cup with beverage, plate with food, offering bowl/plate

Light your candle and set it on your altar. Then either light your incense or pick up your rattle. Walk around your space smudging or using the rattle to cleanse the space with its vibrations. As you walk, visualize creating a sacred space, the smoke or sound chasing any negative energy away.

At your altar take a moment to pause and take 3 deep breathes in and out.

Cast your circle: There are a variety of ways to do this, use whatever method feels best to you. A simple way is to walk the circle with your hand out, visualizing the circle being drawn with your hand. Remember to bring the circle up into a sphere, above and below.

Quarters: You can use these simple quarter calls or make up your own.

Facing the North call the North quarter.

Element of Earth, Guardian of the North

You are the strong mountains and the ground beneath our feet.

Use your strength to keep this circle safe.

Element of Earth, watch over this sacred space!

Blessed Be

Face the East and call the East quarter.

Element of Air, Guardian of the East

You are cool breezes and strong storms.

Use your strength to keep this circle safe.

Element of Air, watch over this sacred space!

Blessed Be

Face the South and call the South quarter.

Element of Fire, Guardian of the South

You are the heat of the sun and the light of the fire.

Use your strength to keep this circle safe.

Element of Fire, watch over this sacred space!

Blessed Be.

Face the West and call the West quarter.

Element of Water, Guardian of the West

You are cool waters and raindrops on the grass.

Use your strength to keep this circle safe.

Element of Water, watch over this sacred space!

Blessed Be

Invoke the Goddess and God: Some people work with both a Goddess and God, some only work with one. Use whatever feels right to you. At this time you are asking the Divine to join you, some may do this silently in prayer, others may read an invocation out loud, and some may say something simple. Whatever you use, whether you wrote it or if you found it online or in a book, really feel it and let your intention come through your words. Don’t worry if you think you sound silly, just speak from the heart.

Once you are done your sacred space is complete. Now is the time to do your working.

Sit down with your pen and strips of paper and think about the past year. What things stand out for you? Is there anything you are really grateful for? Are there things you want to honour? Changes you went through, lessons you learned? Write down something on each of the strips of paper.

Let yourself take all the time you need here.

Once you are satisfied, place all your strips of paper in the bowl and mix them up. Hold the bowl and say

“May these moments remind me of who I am and how far I have come. May they guide me when I feel lost. May the gratitude fill me and lead me to new and wonderful moments.”

Breathe deeply and then gently fold each strip and place them in a pouch or small box. When you are in need you can pull one out and use it as a divination tool or a gentle reminder to help get you through a tough moment.

Now is also a time for you to meditate or do any other work you may wish to do.

Pour your beverage (or if it’s already in the cup) hold your hand over it and visualize energy mingling with the liquid. Visualize whatever kind of energy you feel you need in your life. Lift the cup and say

“May I never thirst. May I be full of blessings and ____.” Drink deeply and then set the cup aside, leaving some liquid in it.

Hold your hands over your plate and visualize energy filling the food.

Say “May I never hunger. May I be full of blessings and _____.” Eat, leaving a small amount on the plate.

Place the remainder of the food in your offering bowl and pour the remaining liquid in. Say

“I offer this in gratitude. Thank you for the blessings I have in my life. Thank you for the energy and guidance you give. Blessed Be”

Set the plate aside. After your ritual either take it outside and leave it somewhere to dispose of it in a way that is safe for any animals in the area. If you do not have that option, then do whatever works best for you with your offerings. This may mean you eat it, it might mean you put it down the drain. Whatever feels right and is safe for you to do.

Thank the Goddess and God. As with invoking you want to say goodbye with intention and in a respectful way. Put the same energy into this as you did with the invocation. Speak from the heart, thank them for their energy and gifts and then say goodbye.

Release the quarters: Use these simple ones or make up your own.

Facing the North call the North quarter.

Element of Earth, Guardian of the North

Thank you for the gifts you brought to this circle.

Thank you for keeping this sacred space safe.

Element of Earth, I release you back to your realm. Go in peace.

Blessed Be

Face the East and call the East quarter.

Element of Air, Guardian of the East

Thank you for the gifts you brought to this circle.

Thank you for keeping this sacred space safe.

Element of Air, I release you back to your realm. Go in peace.

Blessed Be

Face the South and call the South quarter.

Element of Fire, Guardian of the South

Thank you for the gifts you brought to this circle.

Thank you for keeping this sacred space safe.

Element of Fire, I release you back to your realm. Go in peace.

Blessed Be

Face the West and call the West quarter.

Element of Water, Guardian of the West

Thank you for the gifts you brought to this circle.

Thank you for keeping this sacred space safe.

Element of Water, I release you back to your realm. Go in peace.

Blessed Be

Center yourself, pause, breathe and then cut your circle. You can either trace it back with your hand in reverse, or you can stand in one spot and slash through it with your hand visualizing the circle melting away or going back into the earth.

Your circle is open, your ritual is done.

Initiation musings

I was reading an excellent post on how you don’t have to be initiated and reasons why working solitary is great this morning and I started thinking about how every so often you see the round of “Do you have to be initiated to be a witch?”

I have worked in both non-hierarchical, non initiated groups and initiated, hierarchical groups. I’ve also been solitary. I’ve been around the witchy block as it were.

I’ve written before about initiation and how powerful it can be. I understand the yearning to feel like you are part of something. However, people need to think about the reason they want it and sit with that feeling to figure out if it is actually the right course of action for their spiritual path.

I had a friend who wanted to be initiated. She was determined to have someone else do it to have that experience and rushed into it. A very chaotic, disorganized person agreed to initiate them and it did not go the way they had hoped. Over the course of the next year she was very unfocused, could not settle, and was frustrated. She finally said to me one day “I think I made a mistake in having so and so initiate me”

When you are initiated you share energy. This is not something to do lightly. It is not something to rush. You want to really be sure you want this, be sure of the reasons for why you want this and be prepared to do the work. Research groups and their style of worship. Ask questions, learn all you can. Many groups have a dedication period first and that allows you to spend a year working with them to figure out if your energy meshes, if you like the people, if you like the way they work, if their group’s style actually works with your belief system and so on.

Be aware that not everyone is going to be on the same page as you. Not all witches are the same, not all covens or groups worship the same, sometimes it will take time to find the people that work with you. Don’t let someone else rush you into making a decision either. This is something that should mean something to you. Give it the time it deserves.

Initiation can be an amazing and powerful experience, but with it also comes a cleaning of the spiritual closet and a changing in your energies around you. You are putting an intention out into the universe and have to be prepared for the possibility of change.

It also doesn’t have to be done by another witch. There are many rituals out there to walk you through initiating yourself. If you aren’t sure of the groups around you and are sure it is the step you wish to take, then maybe self-initiation is the way to go. You can then create a ritual that really speaks to you and is going to work for the path you are on.

You also don’t have to be initiated to practice. Don’t let books, or blogs or other people make you feel your faith is lacking because you walk a different path. If you are satisfied and feel spiritually fulfilled then ignore anyone who tries to make you feel less. Your path is yours, walk it the way that feels right to you.

 

 

Managing Magic with Small Children

In which friends Sarah and Cin talk about what it’s like to be a witch mom, give tips on how to juggle magic alongside tiny mischief makers, and talk about how to keep in touch with your magical practice when all you want is sleep and quiet.

Cin of Stone Spiral Creations is an experienced practitioner of the Craft with over 22 years of study in both group and solitary rituals. Growing up she played with astrology, tarot cards, and crystals in her Grandma’s kitchen. In her teen years she began to practice Wicca.  She has been involved in a long-standing coven and a Sabbat group, both based on Wiccan Traditions, and has been both a leader and participant in public rituals, classes, and events. Since moving from Canada to Wisconsin, USA, Cin has been working on building a coven and getting to know the local community.

By day Cin lives the cube life of an office worker. Evenings and weekends she can be found cuddling or chasing after her baby son. Cin loves to take photographs and will often be distracted by some tiny detail that she needs to capture. Cin is also a geek who loves to collect My Little Ponies, dolls, or anything sparkly or cute that catches her eye. She loves to do crafts; she sews, does embroidery, scrapbooks and adds large amounts of glitter to things (some of these things end up in her Etsy shop). Cin relaxes with a good book and a large bowl of popcorn.

Becoming a mom has been an amazing journey. I never thought I would be here, but I have learned that the universe throws you curveballs on occasion. I’ve always stated that if I had kids I would let them be free to explore religion and find the path that works best for them. Now, here I am, a new mom, trying to figure out how to have time for my spiritual needs in a way that works for my family and in the small amount of time I do get to have. I want to figure out how to let my son see this side of me, but I want to do it in a way that lets him know my path is mine, his dad has a different path, and he can find whichever way works for him.

I have many worries and fears. People often say that a child raised without spiritual purposeTarot card is lost. I never felt that way, but that is me. I want to offer some sort of guide post to help him find his way, but I also have to be careful. His sister is being raised Christian and I have promised to never mention my faith to her. It means I have to figure out how to juggle all these things and keep it under wraps every second weekend in my own home. I also don’t want him to get to school age and feel left out when all his friends talk about Church or to look weird if he talks about the things we do at home. A delicate balancing act is about to begin.

While I was pregnant I just didn’t have the energy to do much so my serious spiritual practices stopped. The first few months after he was born was a time of adjusting and learning to take care of his needs. I have slowly started to bring back my deeper work, but it can be hard when I am used to giving everyone else what they need before seeing to the things I need myself.

Here are some things that have helped to motivate me, inspire me or some general tips and tricks.

Social Media:

Be inspired by Instagram, blogs, FB, twitter but never compare your practices! I also find if I want to snap a photo of something on my altar I then feel I should actually do something. I’ve made it a rule, no empty photos. If I post my tarot cards, I do a reading, if I post a pretty altar shot I take time to pray.

Schedule time:

I try to look at the month and plan out what nights I will have more time. Schedule chore nights so that you can have time for yourself. After the kids are asleep is a great time to meditate or do some divination or journaling.

Tracker:

I am very motivated by accomplishments. I use a bullet journal and within it I have a daily tracker. Each day has several items on it that I want to be better about doing, things drinking enough water, eating more vegetables, and being Spiritual. As I get to the end of the day I start to figure out what I can do to check that box off.  Figure out what motivates you and use it.

Be flexible and simple:

Understand that you might have to pause that invocation to feed a hungry baby. Let anyone you work with know what potential interruptions might happen so everyone is on the same page.

If you feel like you don’t have time for a full ritual – pull a tarot card daily to meditate on. Make a note of it in your day planner or snap a pic with your phone so you can reference if you need to at various times of the day. Take a few mins on your lunch break or in the bathroom or wherever you have a few moments to yourself.

Before bed light a candle and pray. Connect to the divine however you feel most comfortable.

Chant while you push the stroller to raise some energy. Or while you rock the baby, or do the dishes, or the laundry etc. Use the time your hands might be busy as a time to raise energy with your voice. Focus it and then send it to aid you in your workings.

Set an alarm on your phone and when it goes off, pause and practice gratitude or work on a visualization etc.

Traditions:

Build family traditions that work around whichever holidays you celebrate. Keep them simple enough for your family and friends to take part in, but witchy enough that you can tap into the symbolism and feel like you celebrated.

In our family we plan to make “Sun cookies” on the solstices. We created a Wassailing tradition to bless the yard and our gardens. We celebrate Lent for my husband and during that time I work on sacrifice and shadow work.

Take turns:

When my husband needs some time to relax I watch the baby. When I need time he takes him. Work together to make sure everyone gets a healthy amount of time to do the things they enjoy.

There will be moments where it is a struggle. There will be months that go by with no serious work. Get creative and see what you can do in the short moments you do have.

Last night I had my candles lit, the incense burning and I was ready to get to work. I heard my son wake up and my husband go to get him. I waited, but after a few minutes I could hear the cry of “mamma”. I blew out the candles and headed up to rock and soothe my little boy. We sat in the dark and snuggled. I could smell my incense on my skin and as he slowly fell back to sleep I paused and breathed deeply. I sent out a pray of gratitude and connected. This wasn’t the meditation I had planned, but it was magic of its own.


Sarah Lawless is an animistic witch, writer, and herbalist living in rural Ontario, Canada with her partner Alex, her three year old son, and a baby boy on the way. When she’s not chasing after the kiddo, Sarah works as a forager and herbalist crafting wild edibles and medicinals for her business Fern & Fungi. You could say she’s obsessed with herbalism, ethnobotany, native plants, and permaculture and you’d be correct. Sarah has been an author, teacher, and ritualist within the witchcraft community for the past 12 years and she can often be found teaching classes at herbal conferences and horticultural events as well as hosting rituals at the local Witches’ Sabbat and Kaleidoscope Gathering. Sarah’s idea of downtime usually involves baking sweets, cooking complex recipes, napping, and snuggling up with her man and binge watching Game of Thrones.

Once upon a time when I was childless (which seems very long ago, but has really only been three and a half years), I was a very active witch. I really do mean very active. I had my own personal magical practice working with my familiar spirits and the land, I worked with small groups of friends, I circled with a few large ritual groups, I was on the board of the local pagan festival, I taught workshops, I hosted rituals, I hosted events, and I wrote frequently about the practice of magic. Those who have known me for years will have noticed most of that has either completely stopped for the past few years, or has significantly slowed down.

I had my first son in 2014 and now I am about to have my second son this April. I love being a mom and I love my tiny adorable man who is so clever, funny, helpful, and such a goody-two-shoes, but I never could have imagined how incredibly tired I would be. I’m fairly certain small children have so much energy because they are secretly borrowing it from you! You know going in that babies and kids are going to be hard, but no one can really tell you just how hard until you experience it for yourself. It is a life-changing switch of going from an independent person who mainly has to worry about their own self-care to a parent who has to worry about tiny humans every second of every day… even when said tiny humans are sleeping. Free time is a distant dream as is uninterrupted sleep. If you’re lucky enough to have grandparents who babysit or have a good daycare program, then your “free time” becomes “do all the things you couldn’t do with the kiddo around time“. This means: laundry, dishes, house cleaning, emails, banking, groceries, cooking, and other fun tasks of adulting.

It is especially hard if you are a single parent, the other parents is absent or unhelpful, or you don’t have any family to rely on for help… but even if there are two awesome co-parents involved, the idea of fitting your magical practice in alongside parenting can seem daunting and impossible. It can be even harder when you get the fun reality check of discovering your coven, ritual group, and witchy friends are not kid-friendly. You may find yourself consistently sitting at home while the magic happens without you. Your childless friends may think reliable babysitters who are free when you need them fall from the sky, but if you aren’t near family it’s often not an option for many parents. Over the years I’ve watched a lot of friends drop out of their covens or the pagan community after they had children. Sometimes they come back, many times they do not.

I didn’t have the best experience when my first son was a baby. I didn’t have a reliable partner, I was thousands of miles from family, none of my ritual groups turned out to be baby or kid friendly, and some of my witchy friends even blatantly asked me not to visit them with my baby (this unexpectedly included friends who had their own kids). Isolation is not good when you have little ones and supportive friends, family, and community make all the difference in the world between a happy parent and a depressed parent.

I answered to these issues by leaving behind my pagan community for one that is kid-friendly, moving closer to family (as in 15 minutes away), and then leaving my previous partner who was abusive and not interested in parenting (despite claiming the opposite). I took care of my needs and what is best for my kid. I really miss my magical friends from the West Coast, but we try to keep in touch as best we can. Change can be hard and often painful, but if you find yourself in a similar situation as me, I can tell you now it was worth it.

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Where on earth are magical parents supposed to fit in magic? If you don’t have a family-friendly coven and/or an awesome partner or family to help you out so you can attend rituals, coven meetings, and festivals, you are going to need to focus on building and maintaining a personal magical practice at home. In the borrowed words of my father: “Keep it simple, stupid.”

The Magic of Birth and Babies

If you are pregnant, remember that birthing IS magic. You are becoming a doorway between the spirit and physical realms. You’re about to turn a spirit into a corporeal being — that is some heavy shit! Look into traditional rituals that prepare mamma and baby for the birth and the big changes that are about to happen. The blessing way ceremony popular in new age circles may verge on appropriation (what doesn’t these days?), but make it your own using your beliefs and practices from your own magical or cultural tradition. For both of my pregnancies, friends put together simple, personalized ceremonies that were really beautiful.

If you’ve recently had a baby there are many ceremonies you can perform which mainly consist of blessing and protecting the baby and new mother. You’ve just ripped a hole open between the worlds, you’d better ward it! You can look to cultural traditions or pull a rite from your magical tradition. A baby blessing usually involves holy water and also often the official naming of the baby. Baptism is pretty pagan if you look into its ancient history. You don’t need a coven, you can do this yourself or with your partner and a small group of friends.

Craft yourself a protection talisman and a birthing talisman. Willow placed under the birthing bed is supposed to help with the pain, but there is a lot of folklore and superstitions you could mine for information. Talismans to protect babies and small children are very common across cultures as they are believed to be more susceptible to illness, evil spirits, pesky pixies, and the evil eye. Research can also help you keep up your magical work so I’m not going to do it for you here!

Daily Devotions

So you have a baby or a toddler and not much free time, but you can still try to do one small thing daily for yourself and your deities or spirits. You can work on maintaining an altar or shrine with offerings of incense, libations, flowers, or food. I try to light good incense one to two times a day for my spirits. My current partner helps with this, which is awesome, and the toddler loves to help by blowing out the flame when I light the incense sticks. I also refresh the cut flowers on my ancestral altar every 1-2 weeks. My ancestral shrine currently gets more love than my main witchy altar, but I’m working on evening things out.

You can attempt to meditate once a day (or at least sit for a moment and do absolutely nothing at all) even if it’s only for 5-15 minutes. The best time for meditation is when the kiddo is asleep at naptime or bedtime. If you try to meditate when they’re awake, it’s often going to be as bad as trying to take a phone call while your toddler acts out to get your attention (when just a minute before they were completely ignoring you). That being said my partner is Buddhist and has started meditating in front of the kiddo and instead of just pestering him, the toddler has decided to join him in just “sitting” and demands his own cushion. It’s pretty cute.

Maybe you have a favourite piece of devotional liturgy or a litany you like to recite that makes you feel holy or more connected to your magic. Something easy to memorize that you can repeat once a day at a certain time. I also often found myself forgetting the words to lullabies and more frequently sing my son to sleep with soothing magical chants to the point that he requests them now that he can form full sentences. Eventually you can sing them together. Little ones love songs and singing and most don’t care whether you can carry a tune or not – they certainly can’t!

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Digging Deeper for Monthly Magic

Even practicing something once monthly can be hard, but it’s worth it. What is one thing that is important, that you promised you would do, that you really shouldn’t let lapse now that you are a parent? That one day or one hour of re-connection to spirit is incredibly nourishing to your soul. You need it, so make it happen! It could be your monthly coven meeting and ritual, it could be your local open sabbat ritual, or it could be something personal. I perform my solitary full moon rite every full moon and try to keep it simple and the same to make it manageable but still meaningful. It’s the one thing I promised I would do. If I lapse, man do my spirits get pissed! They don’t care how much I need to sleep and the bright full moon shining in my face at night, waking me up, certainly doesn’t either. If you have commitments to spirits you work with, it’s in your best interest to keep up with them. Apologize sincerely and leave good offerings when you fail.

I also tried to attend a local new moon women’s ritual, but couldn’t keep up. It’s something I know I can try to go back to. If I add something else to my monthly practice, it’s usually divination. I’m not a daily card puller, so once a month works well for me to bring out a favourite tarot deck. When the kiddos are older I will attempt to add my dark moon rite back into my regular practice, but right now juggling full and dark moon rituals would be too overwhelming. Know your limit, stay within it!

Magic on the Fly

If it’s just been too long since you’ve felt magical and witchy or your small, daily devotions aren’t nourishing you enough, then it’s time to step it up. Try to get a night off with a babysitter or invite your magical friends over to your place after the kiddo’s bedtime and have a good magical session and social catch-up with your friends. Do a simple ritual, read tarot or tea leaves, perform a needed spell, or go outside and soak up actual moonlight and starlight. Put aside the time and do it. Re-embrace your pre-kid witchy self.

Not everyone has witchy friends to call on or at least not ones that are nearby enough to come visit. Skype or face-time those far away magical best friends and talk about your magical practice and all things woo-woo. Sometimes even just talking about magic with others who practice and get it is immensely helpful and invigorating. Also, it’s nice to talk to adults, adults who talk about adult things using adult words –especially adults that don’t mention toilet training, diapers, or the hell of toddler bedtime at all. Forget you’re a mom or dad for a while and hang out with your fellow magical people.

If you’re really alone or are just a very private person, then it’s time to get your witch on. Get those hands dirty and do some spell work. It doesn’t matter if it’s something serious that needs doing or just refreshing your household protection charms — get down and dirty and do it. Make talismans for protection, luck, money, gardening, or sleep. Perform candle spells. Do a house cleansing and blessing. Take a ritual / spiritual cleansing bath complete with candles and herbs and oils. Craft herbal concoctions like salves, incense, magical oils, or a dream pillow. Break out those occult books you’ve been hoarding since your teens and mine them for crafty hands-on ideas. Steal some that super precious “free-time” and do one small thing.

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A Note On Precautions

So you’re a parent now and are responsible for the safety of tiny people. Be smart and responsible. You can’t shit where you eat anymore. This means you don’t curse in your house, you don’t summon dangerous entities in your house, you don’t open portals to unsafe places in your house. You don’t do gorey or kinky rituals in your house the kids could walk in on that might scar them for life. Now you have to do it at a friend’s house or take it outside – preferably completely off your property. Go find a crossroad or a spot in a park or the woods for your witchery. Save some things until you are kid-free at your local pagan festival. Seriously, don’t even let some spirits or deities know you have kids. Children’s innocent souls are tender and delicious.

You’re pregnant? Yeah, the hedgecrossing wherever/whenever you want, the shape-shifting, and any possessory work is going to take a big hit. Reel it in until your bun in the oven turns into a toddler. I still do some dream work, but it’s much tamer and safer than my pre-mom, pre-pregnant self practiced (even unconsciously). Then there’s that awkward moment when your witchy friend’s kids and husband, who are tired of being haunted, ask you to “talk” to mom about her loose boundaries with spirits and come over and shut all the doors to the otherworld in the house whether she likes it or not and give her a talking to. Oh the magical parents I’ve known who have done dumb things…. Letting ghosts in the house on purpose or getting possessed and speaking in tongues is not going to impress your kids.  No, just no. You’re a parent now. Ward all the things and check those wards at least monthly.

Be cautious, but no need to go overboard. A simple spell candle, a divination, a blessing, the crafting of talismans, consecrations of tools, etc are not going to be a big deal to do in your home when you have children. Just save those Hekate devotions for the crossroad and the necromancy for the graveyard or the forest. Keep those baneful herbs and any fetiches or tools that can’t be handled by anyone but you locked up and out of reach. As my partner would say: “common sense, yo”.

Warrior Meditation

I used this meditation on the new moon. I wrote it in my ritual space and then shared it with my friends in circle. Feel free to use it in your rituals, I just ask that if you are sharing or posting about it then please credit my blog.

Set up your sacred space in whatever manner works best for you. We placed scarves over our heads and everyone got comfortable on the ground. Pause where you need to in the meditation to give more time for each step.

Feel yourself relax into the floor. Visualize roots coming out of your body and working their way deep into the earth. Let your roots reach down to the core of mama earth. Feel her dark, moist, energy. Pull some of that up into your body, let it soak into your skin and fill you with cool earth energy.

Reach up to the sky and find the warm, bright sky energy. Send branches up from your body and connect with the sky. Pull some of that warm, light energy down into your body. Let it soak into your skin and fill you.

Swirl the earth and sky energy around in your body. You are connected above and below.

Now that you are full of that energy, visualize yourself in your safe place. You are comfortable there, you are safe. Relax into your space.

After a short while a guide appears in front of you. This guide may be a person, an animal, some sort of other being. You know you are safe with them. They are here to help you on your journey.

They lead you out into the darkness. The darkness turns into a path and it leads you through a forest. You can hear the quiet sounds of birds and the wind. Even though it is dark, your guide is able to help you down the path without issue.

The path leads you out of the trees and onto a beach. The sky is dark above you, and the lake is large. The water softly laps at the shoreline. With no moon out the stars twinkling above are the only light.

Your guide gently pulls you down the beach and you follow. Ahead you see a large bonfire. You head towards it and sit down in the cool sand in the ring of light. The flames are bright and warm and the crackling fire is soothing. You breathe deeply and relax.

A small table appears next to you and on it are many jars and bottles. Each one holds a different colored powder or creamy paint. Your guide pulls a mirror out and holds it up for you. You gaze at your reflection and your guide whispers to you “It is time to prepare” They explain to you that this is face paint. Warrior paint. You reach for a bottle and you open it. Your fingers seem to know what to do and they dip in and begin to paint your symbols on your face.

The symbols you put on your skin are yours. Your power symbols that remind you of the warrior within. Your guide speaks to you as you prepare and may warn you of challenges upcoming, or give advice on how to handle a situation. You listen and paint. As your fingers glide over your skin you know you are strong. You are fierce, powerful and beautiful. You are a warrior and you can do anything.

You finish up and stare at your reflection. Memorize your symbols. They are sacred to you. The paint on your skin begins to soak in and vanish from sight. You know it is there. When you need it you can call it out. You know that no matter what comes you have the strength, the power, the abilities to do whatever you  need to do.  You can handle anything.

Your guide nods and tucks the mirror away. You stand, stretch and feel the power within you. The fire begins to die down and dim. Your guide leads you back to the water’s edge and you stare out over the dark water. Once again you think of your symbols and feel them under your skin. Filled with your strength and power you turn and head back to the path.

Your guide leads you through the forest and back to your safe space. You pause there to reflect and prepare yourself to come back to the world.

Slowly, you begin to send the extra sky energy back up through the branches to the heavens. You feel the light energy gently work its way up from your body to where it came from. Slowly, you send the earth energy down to the center of the earth through your roots. As you send the energy up to the sky and down to the earth you become more aware of your body. You feel the ground beneath you, you feel your breath, you can hear the noises of the room you are in. Gently you become more present, coming back to this realm. With each breath you become more aware.

When you feel fully in your body, stretch lightly and then open your eyes. Sit up slowly and process your thoughts. When you feel ready, stand up and stretch.

 

 

Samhain

On the 31st I brought my meditation oracle to work. Every year I bring something and let my coworkers pick a card. This year everyone was very impressed because they all got some sort of message that meant something to them. My message was a bit of a cosmic 2×4, but I have come to expect that of my messages.

We didn’t get very many trick or treaters, but the few we had were cute. The little dude was very interested in what was going on. On the weekend before Halloween we had the wee one as well and we all went over to a friends house for Halloween fun. The kids dressed up, played Halloween games like “Mummy Wrap” and carved pumpkins. They all had a good time.

Back home on the 31st, after the little dude was asleep, I went out and walked our yard and worked on the wards. It was a wonderfully witchy night, the wind was blowing and the stars were out. It had a crispness in the air that made it feel like it would be cold soon. I walked around my yard, working my magick and letting my cloak fly about in the wind. It was lovely.

My coven wasn’t able to get together until Nov 5th, so that is when we celebrated. We didn’t do any of the traditional Samhain things this year, we had other magick to work. When we were done it felt good. I almost cried, the reaction that let me know the magick was working. There was a feeling of solidness, that what we had done was the right path. I look forward to the steady growth as we move forward.

I also wasn’t ready to deal with the grief I had. Earlier in October a friend took their own life. I’m still working through that and will say goodbye when it feels right.

Mid-fall update

Time is chugging along. What have I been doing?

The little dude can’t have dairy or soy so I have cut all of that from my diet. Between that and breastfeeding I am now 7 lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight 5.5 months after giving birth. That’s fabulous, but I’ve had people lecture me about trying to get in shape too quickly and I’m left saying “I didn’t do anything, it all fell off”

And it is true. I am not doing anything extra, just my 10 mins of yoga and then lugging around an 18 lb baby. (Giant baby) I’m doing my best to eat a ton to keep up with it all, but these things happen. People need to chill.

The house is slowly being baby proofed as the little dude can wiggle and squirm his way all over pretty easily. We’ve been planning out the changes to the garden and we are looking forward to getting our Canada 150th anniversary tulips in the ground.

The tween has requested a Halloween costume so I have started work on that. I still don’t know what I am going to wear, but I’ll figure something out. The little dude’s costume was ordered and has arrived and we can’t wait to dress him up.

I’ve been writing rituals and mentally preparing for the next few months of spiritual work. I have ideas, I just need to sit down and take time for myself to get them done. Organization is important. Samhain is approaching quickly so I need to get that prep work done.

I hope everyone else is having a lovely fall!